The Slim Mindset

Nov 5, 2024

Many of my clients are 40-60, and I am often asked how I stay slim at 49. 

Look, I am a recovering emotional eater. In my 20th, my relationship with food was to binge or undereat; I really believed the social narrative that size 6 is the way I’m supposed to look, like many young women. 

Then, I realised that I was hungry for meaning, purpose, and belonging. I followed practices that helped me form a mindset that kept me focused on that ‘mission,’ and anything that didn’t serve that became unappealing. The hunger started to subside, and I was more satisfied. ‘We can’t eat our way to God,’ one yogi said to me”. 

In my perimenopause stage, I started to gain weight, and like many of my clients, I felt that I was doing everything right, like I used to, but now it didn’t work. 

I’ve studied menopause to understand hormones and our mental/emotional needs from recent scientific studies and Vedic knowledge; it is clear that our body needs more rest, and metabolism needs different nutrients, and our search for meaning and satisfaction is changing; we are not the same women, our mindset needs to change from the princesses who wanted to help everyone and slightly neglecting herself, to the queen archetype, now your dharma (the role you came to play) has to start with you. All the beautiful things we wish for the world must begin in our bodies. 
This is one of the things I’ve been teaching in the Forest Dweller course.
We must now pay more attention to ourselves: rest, reflect, and devote ourselves to something that makes us feel alive. 
If being slim brings you lightness and joy, then your mindset is: 
“The food I choose must give me the strength to follow all that is important to me.” 
Your exercise, meditations, and therapies are non-negotiable.
The people around you must have similar values, and you must remove anyone who doubts your dreams. 
People-pleasing default mode starts to feel as if you are betraying yourself. 
And somehow, magically, you are in a body you love again, maybe like you never loved before.


Learn to nourish your body, care for your hormonal system, balance your emotions, and find mental clarity. THE FOREST DWELLER COURSE (recording and one-to-one session with me) LINK