Suffering End When You Practice This

May 17, 2025

As a recovering control freak, I see that so many of us are, which is a result of feeling unsafe in our early years. My recovery started when I first arrived in India 20+ years ago because in India, the land of ordered chaos, nothing will go the way the ego wants.It forces you to surrender, and with it, trust arises.But you don’t have to travel to India to experience it (though it is a promised experience 🙂 You just need to be open to living from a place of trust rather than fear (practice below). Trusting is the very foundation of experiencing the state of yoga, which is freedom from the effects of fluctuations in thinking and feeling.Living with ease!The Buddha said that suffering ends when we allow things to be as they are.When I mentor women going through perimenopause, I notice that those who suffer the least are the ones willing to shift their roles and mindsets. Literally, by letting things be, I see the shedding of extra weight, less depression and anxious thoughts, and more excitement in what the change might bring. Many who struggle with emotional eating or any addiction, for that matter, have difficulty accepting themselves as they are. They’re ‘hungry’ for something better, something more than what is now. While it’s good to strive for more, the change will come when we are satisfied, We have to experience right now what we want more of. Lack will only attract more lack. When we allow things to be as they are—the job we lost, the friend who is no longer in our life, the body that has changed—we develop trust in how life unfolds. Patanjali, the author of The Yoga Sutras, describes this trust as the foundation of a successful practice—one that leads to stillness, or freedom from identifying with every little trouble the mind creates. In a way, this is how we cultivate mental and emotional wellbeing, a peace of mind that inevitably affects the body.Here’s a simple practice for this week: (The picture above is proof that I went down to the Ganga River to record a guided meditation for you all, but the doggie liked the vibe, so she stayed:)

Notice when you are holding onto something you struggle to release. Pause. Take a few breaths. Observe how your body feels. Say to yourself, “I’m just taking a break from this—I’ll return to it later.” Then, see what shifts. Does your body soften? Can you trust that this moment, even this discomfort, might be a blessing in disguise?You can always return to the attachment, this holding, but now you choose it consciously. The pause—the simple witnessing—is the most important part. Now you are the witness of the attachment, the suffering, but you are not the suffering. In that pause, you might find yourself choosing trust, and that trust brings peace of mind. If this resonates, and you seek a deeper understanding of how to work with your mind—how to cultivate clarity, self-trust, and a sense of knowing yourself better and your purpose—I now offer Your Dharma Design as a one-to-one that offers a structured path to get there. Email me to book your free discovery call to explore what will work for you. It can be as a 6 weeks weekly 1 to 1 sessions online,  or a day together where we spend 5 hours with-  Personalised assessment of your mental and physical constitution to design a tailored diet, lifestyle, and daily practices.Understanding your current challenges, desires, and direction.By the end of this program, you will:✨ Feel lighter, healthier, and more focused.✨ Have a clear vision for your purpose-led life and business.✨ Be equipped with tools and routines to maintain balance, energy, and clarity.✨ Take tangible steps toward living your dharma with confidence.Are you ready to step into clarity, purpose, and action? Get intouch at info@rinagolan.co 3559f87d-c223-f46e-39fa-cf2b73e95c2e.jpg