A story.
I’m in India now, living along the Ganga River and feeling another wave of change, a rebirth coming so I was inspired to share this with you.
Just as I was hitting perimenopause, I started to feel that the way I had lived my life until that point no longer felt relevant. I was aligned with the statistics—40% of women divorce between 40-50. It wasn’t that love had ended, but I no longer felt like a princess (as my husband used to call me). I was stepping into the queen archetype. Perimenopause and menopause can bring a lot of di ease mentally and physically, but it’s not just about hormones; they are initiations. There’s a deep call to shed outdated identities, step into sovereignty, and find what truly nourishes. For years, I had followed routines that no longer made sense. My body demanded a new rhythm—more rest, a deeper connection with nature, and a different way of showing up in the world. It was a time of grief and release, but also of immense power.The need for more meaning became painful. Being the wife of a TV director, hosting dinner parties, and travelling in the winters felt flat. After burning out as a TV producer, I had chosen it, I was no longer interested in a big career. Being a housewife who taught a bit of yoga for seven years was wonderful, but then a calling came. We tried for three years to accommodate each other’s needs, and after three years of not truly living our truth, we said goodbye with kindness and friendliness. Then doors opened. I was taken to Brazil (all expenses paid) to work on a wellness project, then invited to the mountains to collaborate with a herbalist and shaman on an addiction rehabilitation protocol. We combined my cleansing, meditation, talking therapy and yoga with his work with psychedelics—he did the ‘flying,’ and I did the ‘grounding.’ It was a deeply satisfying project that healed something within me too, as addiction was close to home. and we managed to create a successful program.
The less I bled, the more I was called to serve in new, more meaningful ways.In the Vedic tradition, perimenopause and menopause mark the stage of Vanaprastha, the forest dweller. Reflection, meaning, and fulfilling our dharma become essential for mental and physical wellbeing. Suddenly, hot flushes are no longer just a symptom—they are signs of awakening kundalini energy. If we don’t honour this shift through service or practice, our nervous system feels shaky.I’m not suggesting you must get divorced, leave home, and follow a calling. Some couples grow together and step into the forest hand in hand, embracing a sacred union. But if you’re over 40, I encourage you to open yourself to the clarity of where life is taking you. Tune into your changing needs and explore the possibility that while you are no longer making children, you are now birthing your legacy. This doesn’t have to be something grand—it could be as simple as sharing your wisdom, nurturing a community, or expressing your creativity. With this shift comes a deep satisfaction that no dress, flat belly, or status will ever give you.PRACTICE
Ways to open yourself to clarity:
Create a space for stillness- light a candle, turn off the phone and take a few deep comfortable breaths.
〰️Forgive the past: Go through the people and situations you are still carrying, one by one, and say:
I forgive you. I release you. I let you go.〰️Fill up the space: Imagine filling that space that you’ve created by letting them go with what brings you alive— acts that align with your values and what you wish to see in the world for the next generation.
Write for 10-15 minutes about your experience. |
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